Just recently, I was talking to a group about the so-called "important" issues in the world. And it became clear how quickly we speculate and make assumptions because we lack real information. So we draw conclusions from our existing prejudices and make hasty assessments, thinking that we are discussing facts.

Do we really always have to react and "have our say"? The question arises as to whether it really makes sense to always jump on the bandwagon. Even if this topic may be an important one, it is questionable whether it is really so important for us personally that we have to keep talking about it. We need to consider to what extent our often purely speculative contributions make sense at all.

Why can't we just keep quiet? Silence, not in the sense of chickening out and staying out of it, but silence in the sense of, first I want to gather facts so that I can allow myself a real judgment. Do we trust us to admit that we don't know the answer, that we can't even know it?

Isn't Mrs. Merkel always condemned in the press for being a procrastinator? At the beginning of her career, a reporter once asked her a question about a current topic and she said she would be happy to answer later and first get more information and think about it. And then the press reported that Merkel had no idea - she wasn't doing her job properly. Isn't it actually good to think about things and not always demand the impossible from our politicians?

In an interview, the singer Nena was asked "But if things had turned out differently now, how would it have been for you?"

Nena's answer: "I don't live in what-if-land!"

Nena is allowed to do this with impunity, on the contrary, we still admire her for it. In my discussion, I felt more like a dreamkiller when I asked to be mindful, as has just been speculated. In this sense, dreams really are dreams and should be recognized in time.

And so we are often surprised that we are not as successful as we would like. But if we always feed our computer with speculation, assumptions and simply "untrue" data, the result cannot be true.

In almost all my consultations and coaching sessions, the initial question is what you, dear client, really want. Only when we have this clear do we know what the most important goal really is.

Michael V. Pantalon, therapist and author, conducts research at the Yale School of Medicine and has repeatedly found in his studies that it usually takes five inquiries into the real why before the really, really wanted becomes conscious.

So it would be good if we didn't take the first thought too seriously.

But how or what did we learn at school? We learned not to question. We learned that it was all about quick answers and having our say. My mentor Bob Proctor never tires of emphasizing that we don't learn at school, we just collect information/data. Learning means understanding something more deeply, being able to apply something.

That's how we were taught what is essential. Essential for an exam, for example. But is it really important? Or why might it be important? Vera Birkenbihl used this example: "333 at Isso's wedge fight." Many people still have this in mind. But who knows what was really going on there? What was it about? What were the economic connections?

And: is this major event in world history really important for us? The real reasons were not discussed, the significance for our lives (if any) remained hidden. Learning by heart is then a waste of time or, at best, memory training. But unfortunately not brain-friendly either.

US President Eisenhower brought us the helpful quadrants with the criteria important/unimportant and urgent/not urgent. We may have learned who Eisenhower was at school, but this powerful tool for escaping the "slavery of urgency" unfortunately never made it into the classroom.

The outside world is spinning faster and faster, so it is all the more important to live your own essence from within so as not to forget what is really important with the ever-increasing sense of urgency. However, so many people live drifting in the current and envy those who seem to be like a rock in the surf and are also able to give others security.

And Bob Proctor again: Calm down (inside) and speed up (outside)!

Do you have a clear focus, a clear guideline that you can align yourself with? Privately, as a family, as a couple, as an individual? Professionally, as a company, as an employee, as a colleague, as part of the whole?

Can you clearly distinguish between perceived urgency and real importance for you?

We need a filter that helps us to make the information that is really important for us/our vision visible. This clarifying process takes place in PurposeFinding, and the participants are truly liberated afterwards.

If the internally driven vision based on the purpose becomes visible, then the right objectives can be set to enable a positive, consistent focus.

Be mindful and feel, then you will also become clearer about what you want to spend your remaining time on.

If you don't want to find out alone what your purpose, your vision is and, above all, how you can live a purpose-based life in good prosperity (Millionaire Spirit), then you are welcome to take part in the Soul Power workshop developed for this purpose. Or book an individual PurposeFinding Day.

Either way, the joy of life is greatest when your activities are in harmony with your essence. And everything is easier to do than it was when we were children.

But it is important to distinguish between what is essential and what is really important, what is really important for you.

All good things come in threes, so Bob again: the main thing is that the main thing remains the main thing.